I coach Basketball for my son’s basketball teams. I’ve been coaching/teaching on some level since I was 14 years old, so I’ve got around 20 years of experience doing it. Recently, my B team basketball lost a thriller. We had a chance to tie it with 6 seconds left after being down by 8 points with 54 seconds left. The team we were playing had beaten us the night before by 12 points and we played scared the whole second half in that game. I have not coached harder, even when I coached High School, than I did in this game. After hitting a 2 point basket the kids set up the trap press perfectly. I was standing 10 feet away screaming “Straight up, Straight up, no reach Straight Up” for 5 seconds. The other team called Time Out just in time to save the 5 second call. So I went back to coaching loudly to get them where they needed to be for the press and the inbounds. I told them they needed to “sell out” it was all or nothing and then they’d have to foul and hope. The kids stole the inbounds, 2 of my guys were on the floor, the big guy picks it up and kicks it out to my shooting guard who is standing wide open for a three. He gets a great look and it just misses as time expires. We lose by 3.
My kids totally out played the other team. While they were bigger and faster, we had devised a game plan to play to our strengths and exploit their weaknesses. I started a 4th grader to play man to man on their BEST 6th grade player. They hit back to back three pointers to start the second half and they hit a half court shot at the buzzer to end the third quarter, but I made them stick to the plan and motivated and coached as well as I could and they never stopped playing, never stopped believing. I was NOT going to let them give up mentally, no matter what the score was, but they had to do the work. When the buzzer sounded, we were the happiest, proudest group of 2nd placers that I’ve ever seen. Our parents were louder and more appreciative and our team felt like it had one first place. The score really didn’t matter… winning the game wasn’t as important as the way we had just played it. Our second place finish was better than the first place trophy.
Ever think about that from God’s perspective? We often ask for things, important things, selfless things and when we don’t get the first place prize, we often struggle to accept a second place answer from God. Looking back at this game, I think about my recent struggles with overcommitedness and perhaps a touch of depression. Dark places where I don’t want to be around other people, say things I might regret… That empty feeling that doesn’t go away despite the fact that I KNOW what God says. It’s a hard place to be when what we KNOW isn’t what we FEEL. Knowing that we’re forgiven, loved, not alone doesn’t make the tightness in our stomach go away. We see and know only the game plan, we may FEEL like it will never work.
I think back to this game and wonder how many times we hear God standing right next to us screaming through scripture and our personal history with Him “HOLD ON, THAT’S IT, ALMOST THERE, STRAIGHT UP - HOLD ON”. We know the game plan and even though our bodies feel like quitting or letting go, there is often just enough strength to hold on - to put one more day on our resume, one more day to look back at how God carried us, motivated us, showed us the way.
Sometimes, in those dark places, we want the storm to stop. That would be finishing in first place, that would be our first place trophy - instant peace, that pain would go away. But all too often we get the second place finish - the one with some heartache, incredible amounts of hard work and a game plan that takes us down to the last shot. How do we respond to the second place finish? Here’s an example from scripture in Matthew:
25During the fourth watch of the night Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. 26When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear.
27But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.”
28″Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”
29″Come,” he said.
Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. 30But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”
31Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”
32And when they climbed into the boat, the wind died down. 33Then those who were in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.”
Peter is sinking he calls out to Jesus, who grabs him immediately - BUT THE STORM DOESN’T STOP! They have to get back to the boat and THEN the storm dies down. Peter’s response to the second place finish? To worship God.
Praying that all our second place finishes are heartfelt, hard fought and well received as God coaches us through the dramatic wins and tough losses in Life. Keep Climbing with Jesus!